Recently, my dear friend Tom, graciously drove me into the city for a doctor’s appointment. It had been a while since we had a chance to have one of our profound, yet goofy chats, ranging from job stress to naming the voice of the navigation system. While Carly seemed trite, Carla somehow seemed to know what she was talking about.
As we drove past the last whispers of the fall foliage, Tom asked in his deep, sonorus voice, “So, how’s it going, Butler?”
Exasperated by the moronic Monday I was having, I sighed, “Man, things are just getting excrementally worse. I don’t even know where to begin.”
Tom was silent. Then, stone faced. He looked over at me and asked, “Did you just say excrementally?”
I had not even realized what I said, but we both had a belly laugh, and the “fit that was hitting the shan” feeling, somehow became the fertilizer that renewed my outlook on the day.
Over the course of the day, we had a few blunders. Ranging from an EZ pass snafu and almost missed exits to the full-on space cadet moment, when I forgot to give Tom my electronic car key after he dropped me off at the entrance to NYU Langone and proceeded to run an errand in Brooklyn. Our guardian angel for the day, had a decidedly good sense of humor. When Tom realized my mishap, he was about to stop at a convenience store to relieve a full bladder – needless to say, a full tank of gas and a nearby friend came to the rescue.
The reason I’m sharing this story is to relate the healing powers of spending time In Person with a person. Talk about nothing. Talk about anything. Listen to fantastic music from your childhood, (I highly suggest ABBA) or from your college years. Reminisce. I promise the more you laugh and talk with another human soul, your day will go from excrementally worse to exponentially better. Friendship just might be the fertilizer you need to make your positivity grow.
If you are unable to meet someone in person, reach out to them by phone. Speak with them rather than text. Especially, when you might be unable to leave your residence due to an illness or setback. Or, when someone you know might be going through a difficult time. A few moments of friendship can break the cycle of stress and the detrimental effects it has on the body. Have you ever felt more fulfilled or calm after spending an hour mindlessly perusing the internet? I dare say not.
While I admit technology does come in handy at times, especially on a road trip, be mindful of your selections. When Tom yawned and asked,“do you mind if we stop for coffee?” was when I realized playing your new favorite bedtime story app while driving is not a good idea.
Here are a few of my favorite meditation and relaxation Apps. They all have free and premium content and are especially helpful if you are new to meditation or finding it challenging to quiet your mind.Of course, I highly suggest trying them when you are not driving.
Calm: includes music to rest, sleep and focus, daily guided meditations, masterclasses on wellness (these are great for long drives) and THE BEST bedtime stories for sleepless nights or when you are not feeling well.
Stop,Breathe,Think: Lots of free guided meditation of various lengths by various individuals. Great for finding a style that suits you and your time constraints.
Stop, Breathe & Think – Stop, Breathe & Think
Headspace: Short and sweet guided meditations to start your day on a positive note. Bonus: If you are a Downton Abbey fan, the speaker has a wonderful British accent.
Headspace: Meditation – Headspace Inc.